Sh*t to Quit in 2017

Sorry I haven’t posted in a while.  I’m helping clients launch some very exciting businesses and working on a new program to help women step into their executive power.  Good stuff to come!  Now, here’s what’s on my mind today…

While everyone is making 2017 resolutions, let me remind you of something.  Time and the calendar is a human construct.

Every day is an opportunity for resolution and growth.

I probably know more about growth than I publicly want to admit.  I’ve been as low as possible and I’ve been a millionaire using only $40 to get started.  I  know a little about facing the broken version of yourself in the mirror and still doing what needs to be done to feed the children.  What I know most is that quitting bullshit that does not serve you is as important, if not paramount, to reaching your goals, personal and professional.  Stop reading that crappy book, walk away from the relationship that makes you feel less than, quit the job that goes nowhere.

 Make space for the inspired, the divine, the fated.

If you must plan for the magical New Year, plan on quitting the bullshit.  Here, let me help.

  1.  Stop calling yourself a Mompreneur.

It classifies you as less than an entrepreneur.  Either you are a boss or you’re not.  Playing the woman card means you can’t hack it in the “regular Olympics”.  You are enough.  Your vision is enough.  Own it.

2.  Quit putting unrealistic time constraints on things.

No, none of us know how much time we have.  And, it’s usually shorter than we want or deserve.  But, do you want to linger around years after you made your unrealistic goals – only to reflect on the relationships you neglected to make those goals?  Or, do you want to die with purpose on your breath?  Just start.  Do the thing, it will take on a life of it’s own.  Maybe that’s a year, maybe that’s a decade.  Enjoy every fu*&ing minute of this life and quit putting ungodly restraints on yourself.  Have some goals, abso-freaking-lutely.  But, let them do their thing as you make beast moves to realize them.

3.  Quit settling.

If you *do* want to reach your goals quickly, may I suggest you quit settling for less than you deserve?  Want a better car? Get disgusted by the one you have.  Want a better lifestyle?  Don’t tighten your belt, raise your damn standards.  Raising your standards and refusing to be anything but the vision of yourself you want is a real quick way to get what you want on a fast track.  Would that ideal version of you do what you are doing?  No?   Then cut that shit out.

4.  Stop seeing the best in people.

I try to live a positive life and appreciate everyone for their unique gifts.  I love each and every person I know.  That does not mean I give them credit for qualities they do not have.  I’m THANKFUL when people are not as capable, nice, trustworthy, etc as I would expect.  It GROWS ME, it causes me to find fulfillment in what I give myself, not what someone else can provide

5.  Quit buying “get rich quick” books and program schemes.

You know how those authors got rich quick?  They sold you on their system.  Garbage.  Yeah, the guy at the top is rich, you sucker.  If getting rich is your goal: find a problem, fix it. (^^,)  There, I saved you $299.99

 

Just my own meandering advice.  Love and light to you all!  Love yourselves enough to quit the crap and embrace self-development.

Are you waiting to live?

I was thinking a little about those people, you know the ones, that are waiting to talk?  Why is that so annoying to us as humans?

It’s the lack of being present.

We know they are working their own agenda, and being present with us is not a priority.  They are waiting to talk.

I also think this is human nature, the need to be significant.  I would’t go so far as to say they are selfish.  They are just waiting.  We are all are, in some way.  When I’m coaching executives, it’s all about the goal digging.  “What do you want to be when you ‘grow up'” has become the standard icebreaker into the professional psyche.  The future holds more interest for some of us than the precious minutes that we are in.

So, are you waiting to live?  Have you avoided that decision in life that means “TODAY is the day”?  Are you waiting for a better tomorrow, more resources, more connections, more anything before you claim it and LIVE it today?  I don’t know what your “it” is, but I bet there’s one you have been waiting to do.

I implore you, dear reader, to evaluate (quickly! life is short) what you want out of this fragile, beautiful thing called life and make THE decision to do it.

Gather experiences.  

Fail.  

Win.  

Start over.

The power of now beats the promise of tomorrow.

Claim your spot on this marble and be present in each and every piece of what you want.  As my good friend, Les Brown, says, “Don’t let other people’s opinion of you become your reality!”  You can be, today.  In your “future self”, does your new business have all the demand as an iPhone release?  Live that today.  Feel that RIGHT NOW.  Wish you had more budget to create a marketing campaign like Nike?  Do that now.  With a smartphone, with ingenuity, with the decision that the resources are not the problem.  Your mind is the problem.  Change it!

And, I could fill up this post with bumper sticker philosophy, it would not persuade you unless you are in the zone.  I got the news today that another one of my classmates passed away.  You do not have time to bargain with yourself.  If he had just one more day, how do you think he would spend it?  Waiting for the right conditions or with all the vigor and hubris of a teenager taking on the world?

I know that I have been guilty of suppressing joy, seeing friends, attacking that special, “locked away” dream for fear of making a wrong move.  Once I made the decision, albeit in my 40s, to live and not wait, my life became magic.

My wish for you is that you give yourself the gift of bravery.  Love and light to you all,

jenn

The biggest mistake when seeking business advice.

Business advice comes cheap.  And, it’s usually wrong.  Ya know why?

We ask the wrong people because we are subconsciously seeking approval instead of advice.

You want to pursue your business dream:

This entails quitting that 9-5 job and taking a big ol’ leap of faith. “I’m FINALLY going after my dreams!” you exclaim to your loved ones, expecting approval, that you rightfully should get.  But, your father who worked 20 years at a job he hated to put you through school can’t see past the fear.  Your friend who has chosen the comfort of a paycheck doesn’t get why you’d give up girl’s night to struggle in uncertainty.  You ask your colleague, who just might be jealous.

Here, have some truth:   You are “approved” as a person.

Every choice you make in life does not have to be made with the filter of other’s opinions.  In fact, you should experience the life learnings of choosing “unapproved” routes.

As humans, we get advice and approval frequently mixed up.  If you want business advice, seek someone who has done what you want to do.  If you want approval, look in the mirror. (^^,)  Really, approve your own decisions and get on about the business of true counsel in the areas that will help you succeed.

So, this is short and sweet and a little “in your face”:

But, if you haven’t learned self-love, you’re not ready for business advice. Make sure you have lined up the coaches who can really help you in critical areas.  You’ll thank me when you’ve actually achieved your goals in lieu of seeking approval.

xoxo,

Jenn