Ritualizing The Tough Stuff.

A lot of performance “gurus” talk about habits of the highly successful. I have often wondered how many people try and fail at these impossible standards.  It’s not that these habitual strategies don’t work.  It’s that they aren’t natural to you.

The problem, I’ve found, is that no one can tell you how to get the best out of you with a formula.  This is why diets fail and healthy choices win.

Rituals are habits with a purpose.  Trying on someone else’s shoes just might not fit.  Let me tell you a story about how one of my most important rituals came to be:

I love ideation.  The creation of possibilities for my clients is work that comes natural and easy.  Got a problem?  By the end of the day, I have 13 strategies to offer.  That’s because it’s my natural state.  Paperwork, on the other hand, is the bane of my existence.  I would kick, scream, cuss and procrastinate on any and all “business paperwork”.  This would undermine my natural creative abilities, because I’m also a worrier.  A contract is necessary to a thriving business.  And, paramount if you want o make money.  It wasn’t that I’m not good at writing contracts, I actually have a pretty good head for detail and business operations.  It’s just that I didn’t wanna.  But, I had to.  So, I created a ritual about writing contracts and other business paperwork that took care of my internal, stubborn child.

I became grateful.  I would concentrate on how incredibly lucky I was to be in business, and how much of a gift it was to “do the thing” (run a business and all of the benign tasks it involves).

Turning this pain in the ass to a gratitude ritual was the best thing I ever did for me and my business.

Now, I take myself away from my ‘office’,  to the beautiful patio with a glass of wine and focus on the grateful feelings I get with all the beauty that my business provides.  With each keystroke in writing a contract, filling out necessary paperwork, I say a little “thank you”.  I don’t rush, every letter means my success.

The benefit of rituals, custom made for you, is the ability to get shit done in a pleasing manner.  Borrowing rituals can feel forced and have spotty results.  Diets fail because they are forced rules against your natural state.  Rules don’t typically work very well for the creative mindset.  You little rebel, you.

Make the habits you need to adopt for your business success a ritual in celebration.

Here’s a little secret you haven’t been told.  Nothing works if it is not in it’s natural state.  Not communication, not marketing, not financial health, not physical health.

TL; DR:  You do you, boo.  And the goals you have will manifest like magic.